Modernism and its claws...

It's tough being a modern woman, whether working or stay-at-home. 

Sometimes I'm just so tired of being independent, fierce & a career woman. These days women have high-income bracket, they not just go and earn bread & feed their family but also be on top of household finances/budget. These days there's high expectation for women to be good at official work AND also to be good at cars & engines, mortgage refinancing, best phone plan deals, interest rates and reserve bank rates, credit card repayment efficiency (high credit ratings), real estate fanatic, food connoisseur, wine connoisseur, spirits/shots expert, grocery shopping expert, laundry goddess, travel deal expert and proficient vagabond, etc. 

For someone whose good at all those things mentioned above and fall in that category of fiercely independent & successful career woman, sometimes I feel like there's an expectation that I will initiate and handle everything single-handedly! And oh forgot about being a SUPERMOM & SUPER-SPOUSE & super at studying too! Listening, understanding, supporting the emotional and other needs of the other members of the family .....OH and the disadvantage that tags along with being born a woman : painful periods, endometriosis, hormonal disbalance, gynaecological problems, childbirth ! OH LORD!!! Is there any time where modern women can seriously just drop off all these expertise and expectations and just be a dumb woman ?? 

I say dumb because even stay-at-home mums/women don't have it easy these days. Too much is expected from women these days. Help kids with homework, cook, shop, feed, wash, sports drop off/pick ups, grocery runs, festivities organising, dinners and parties...oh please !!! 

And single modern women also have the pressure of finding a partner (when time comes) and most modern working women have to "arrange" a "schedule" to have kids amidst being all those : busy, independent & career-focused ! WTF?!!! 

I seriously think world is getting tougher for women. Yes we could do it ALL : be ambitious and achieve it all; but NO I don't want to be always highly-strung and be treading on thin line all the time balancing everything on my own just to be labelled an independent modern career woman doing absolutely EVERYTHING just to stay attuned with the world at its crazy pace. 

Sometimes I wish I was a man! 

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